120 This or That Questions for Couples

These 120 this or that questions for couples take three seconds each and still start real conversations: hotel breakfast or a local café, one big blanket or two, who cooks and who cleans. They stay light and sweet. For longer answers, try the would you rather questions for couples; for a long drive, the road trip questions for couples; for any group, the main this or that questions.

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Date Night This or That Questions for Couples

Where to go, what to wear and who picks the movie. Ask them over dinner or on the walk home.

  1. Fancy restaurant or hole-in-the-wall?
  2. Your usual spot or somewhere brand-new?
  3. Plan the whole evening or be surprised?
  4. Dress up or dress down?
  5. Concert or comedy show?
  6. Drive-in movie or movie in the park?
  7. Bowling alley or arcade?
  8. Cooking class or glassblowing class?
  9. Escape room or scavenger hunt?
  10. Stargazing on a blanket or city lights from a rooftop?
  11. Sit side by side or sit across the table?
  12. Rom-com or mystery?
  13. Flowers or chocolates?
  14. Phones away all night or phones out for photos?
  15. Slow dance or karaoke duet?
  16. Rowboat or tandem bike?
  17. One long dinner or a food crawl with three stops?
  18. Live music or a quiet bookstore?
  19. Hold hands or link arms?
  20. Walk home the long way or hurry home to the couch?
  21. Pick the movie or pick the snacks?
  22. Night market or late night at the museum?
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Travel This or That Questions for Couples

Carry-on or checked bag, hot springs or glacier walk: find out what kind of travelers you are before you book.

  1. Carry-on only or check a bag?
  2. One suitcase for two or a suitcase each?
  3. Hotel breakfast or a local café?
  4. Guidebook or ask the locals?
  5. Lounge by the pool or see every sight?
  6. Tropical island or snowy cabin?
  7. City break or nature escape?
  8. Early flight or red-eye?
  9. Tour group or explore on your own?
  10. Spa day or adventure day?
  11. Visit your hometown or my hometown?
  12. A long weekend away or two full weeks away?
  13. Sleep on the plane or watch movies on the plane?
  14. Airport: two hours early or twenty minutes to spare?
  15. Hot springs or glacier walk?
  16. Cruise or train trip?
  17. Balcony with a sea view or fireplace in the room?
  18. Paris or Tokyo?
  19. Selfies together or scenery photos?
  20. Rainy vacation day: museum or nap?
  21. Overpack or underpack?
  22. Travel with friends or just the two of us?
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This or That Questions for Couples About Home

Blankets, bedtimes, throw pillows and who does the dishes. The small stuff of living together.

  1. One big blanket or two separate blankets?
  2. Cuddle on the couch or each in your favorite chair?
  3. Movie marathon or board game marathon?
  4. You cook and I clean, or I cook and you clean?
  5. Fall asleep to a show or fall asleep in silence?
  6. Cozy cottage or modern loft?
  7. Walk-in closet or big soaking tub?
  8. Rearrange the furniture often or leave it where it is?
  9. Throw pillows: a whole pile or just two?
  10. Holiday lights: up early or up the week before?
  11. Porch swing or reading nook?
  12. Bold paint colors or white walls?
  13. Bright overhead lights or lamps in every corner?
  14. Go to bed at the same time or go to bed whenever you are tired?
  15. Matching mugs or mismatched mugs?
  16. Family photos on the walls or art on the walls?
  17. Shoes off at the door or shoes on inside?
  18. Sleep in pitch dark or leave a little light on?
  19. Towels: folded or rolled?
  20. Breakfast at the kitchen counter or breakfast at the table?
  21. Fan on all night or fan off?
  22. A home gym or a game room?
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Food This or That Questions for Couples

Share plates or order your own? Picks for the restaurant table, the kitchen and the couch.

  1. Share plates or order your own?
  2. Fresh pasta or homemade dumplings?
  3. Breakfast for dinner or leftovers for breakfast?
  4. Extra spicy or mild?
  5. Thai takeout or Indian takeout?
  6. Chocolate-covered strawberries or fondue?
  7. Let your partner order for you or order for yourself?
  8. Follow the recipe exactly or cook by feel?
  9. Midnight snack or early breakfast?
  10. Sushi rolls or ramen bowls?
  11. Cheese board or dessert board?
  12. Tomato soup and grilled cheese or chicken noodle soup?
  13. Hot cocoa by the fire or lemonade on the porch?
  14. S'mores or caramel apples?
  15. French toast or eggs Benedict?
  16. Taco night or pasta night?
  17. Try the strangest thing on the menu or order your favorite?
  18. Cookies from scratch or slice-and-bake cookies?
  19. Photo of the food first or dig right in?
  20. Dinner at the table or dinner on the couch?
  21. Strawberry shortcake or peach cobbler?
  22. One bowl of popcorn to share or a bowl each?
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Weekend This or That Questions for Couples

Saturday plans for two: yard sales, pickleball, bakery runs and the long-nap question.

  1. Yard sales or antique shops?
  2. Hike or bike ride?
  3. Tackle a home project or leave the to-do list for Monday?
  4. Saturday: pajamas until noon or out the door by nine?
  5. Long walk or long nap?
  6. Day trip to a nearby town or explore your own neighborhood?
  7. Volunteer together or take a class together?
  8. Bookstore or record store?
  9. Watch the game at the stadium or watch it from the couch?
  10. Sunday drive with no destination or Sunday walk around the block?
  11. Garden center or hardware store?
  12. Say yes to every invite or keep one day totally free?
  13. Ice cream run or bakery run?
  14. Kayaking or paddleboarding?
  15. Concert in the park or street fair?
  16. Plan the weekend on Friday or figure it out Saturday morning?
  17. Berry picking or flower farm?
  18. Botanical garden or sculpture park?
  19. Tennis or pickleball?
  20. Binge a whole season or one episode at a time?
  21. Crossword together or card game together?
  22. Photo walk or sketch in the park?
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Road Trip This or That Questions for Couples

Ten cards from our road trip deck that suit two people and a long drive: sunrise or sunset, podcast or audiobook, camping or hotel. The full deck has 60.

  1. Beach or mountains?
  2. Sunrise or sunset?
  3. Camping or hotel?
  4. Podcast or audiobook?
  5. Diner or food truck?
  6. Big city lights or dark sky full of stars?
  7. Theme park or national park?
  8. Morning person or night owl?
  9. Visit family or visit somewhere new?
  10. Short trip every month or one long trip a year?
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How to Play This or That

With two people, this or that becomes a guessing game about how well you know each other.

  1. One of you reads both options out loud.
  2. Before anyone answers, the listener guesses the reader's pick.
  3. Both answer at once on a count of three. A match or a correct guess scores a point.
  4. When you split, each of you gets ten seconds to argue your side.

Three ways to change it up

  • Match score. Each of you answers the same ten questions on paper, then compare. Count your matches out of ten and try to beat it next time.
  • Coin toss plans. Play the weekend section. On every split, flip a coin, and the winning side goes on this weekend's plan: the bakery run, the kayak or the pickleball court.
  • Two-couple round. With another couple, each partner writes down what they think the other will pick. The couple with the most correct guesses chooses the next group outing.

Printable This or That Questions for Couples (Free PDF)

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Frequently asked questions

What are good this or that questions for couples?

Pairs where both sides sound nice, so the pick tells you something: hotel breakfast or a local café, one big blanket or two separate ones. The sections above cover going out, travel, home, food and weekends.

What are cute this or that questions for couples?

Small everyday ones land best: matching mugs or mismatched, one bowl of popcorn to share or a bowl each, hold hands or link arms. They're sweet without getting personal.

What are good date night this or that questions?

Ask them over dinner or on the walk home: fancy restaurant or hole-in-the-wall, rom-com or mystery, flowers or chocolates. The date night section has 22.

How do couples play this or that?

One partner reads two options, the other guesses their pick, then both answer at once. Score a point for every match or correct guess, and let the split answers turn into stories.

Are these questions OK for a new relationship?

Yes. They stick to food, travel, weekends and home habits, with nothing about exes, money or anything intimate. They work early on and after years together.

Can I print these questions?

Yes. The Download PDF button makes a free printable of all 120 questions in your browser, on letter or A4 paper. No sign-up.